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Sam Chanderson
August 24th, 2005, 03:41 PM
Dear Stranger writers and "Slog" readers:

I've had a blast posting on this forum the last few weeks. It wasn't fun at first. All I did was vent some spleen and attack any idiot who disagreed with me. It was good for my rage but soon it left me feeling hoarse. I felt like I was on talk radio.

But then I decided on an experiment. I wanted to see what it would be like to be a Stranger writer, just for a brief time.

So I embraced my inner Stranger and learned to Heart Dan Savage.

What does this mean?

It meant this: I let myself sink into the delirious warm bath of sarcasm, a bilious substance that is the dark lifeblood of The Stranger. They drink this stuff by the barrel. They do laps in this stuff. It's such an important shtick for some of them (e.g. "I Heart Television," the Family Circus of Stranger Funnies) that they've written nothing but sarcasm on a weekly basis for over a decade.

Generally, their targets choose not to respond. The Stranger/Weekly war, for example, has been all one-sided salvos from the beginning. The Stranger makes a big deal about something, squawks to their friends, the dailies, and of course in their own paper, and the Weekly responds by shutting up. (This last "feud" was particularly embarrassing, as it was all based on Savage getting up in arms about a stupid joke that Keck had tried to pull, without telling Dan.)

Silence is really the only way you can respond to sarcasm. It's your way of pretending that the critic or the criticism doesn't piss you off.

And it's how they've treated my postings. Yes, the "I Heart Dan!" category, which has been viewed more times by more people than any other subject on this Slog, has been basically ignored. Its popularity must be troubling to them, but aside from a wimpy little plea from Dan to stop "Hearting" him, we've heard nothing from these razor-sharp wits. Zilch. Nada.

Isn't it funny to have The Stranger shut up about anything?

Maybe they're growing up.

They're certainly getting older. (Median age of Stranger writers, anybody? I'm guessing 37.) And that means they're getting more like the...Weekly.

Horrible but true.

The Stranger ridicules every change that the Weekly has ever made. But the sad thing about The Stranger is that it doesn't change. It's the same bratty bunch of proud underachievers that it's been since it was founded in 1991.

That's 14 years of brattiness. They must be tired of it themselves. Sarcasm is never a force that has power to move any debate forward. Instead, your wheels just spin in the mud eternally until everyone gets bored and gets out to walk.

Which is what their readers are starting to do.

So the aging Stranger staff are trying to act all grown up and it's embarrassing. We get Dan as the Grand Old Statesman on all sorts of soporific subjects (can't wait for the new book, Dan! "The Commitment!" That one should get you on Oprah!), and showing up on VH-1 and cable yak shows. They're putting wretchedly middle-aged radio ads on Air America. This whole "slog," in fact, is an attempt to gain them some sort of legitimacy as Serious Cultural Commentators, even though the news they post with such fanfare is either wincingly adolescent "opinion" or stuff that much better publications (e.g. Salon) has had up for days.

It's like going for a ride with a 16-year-old who's trying to show you what a good driver she is, while insisting on listening to KEXP, telling you her opinion on the war in Iraq, and keeping a cigarette going simultaneously.

Just makes you tired, you know?

After several weeks of covering myself liberally in sarcasm, I find I really can't do it anymore. It's started to affect my generally positive attitude about life. If I was paid to think and write like this it'd be different. But thank God I'm not. I might become one of those strange oddities like Mudede or Frizelle or Wagner, an unchallenged ego who is under the illusion that their writing has some sort of lasting worth.

So thank you, Stranger, for giving me a chance to be a bratty little creep for a few weeks, and understand what it feels like to be in your crowd. I feel like I've really come to terms with you, you endlessly annoying bunch of idiots. May age and time be kinder to you than you've been to other people.

I Heart Dan. But more importantly, I've learned to Heart the Stranger.

Milly
August 24th, 2005, 04:11 PM
I hope so.
Remember Camp Casey

amykate
August 25th, 2005, 10:01 AM
Thank fucking christ. Now get back to your janitorial duties at the <i>Weekly</i>.

Gomezticator
August 25th, 2005, 10:22 AM
"It's been real. It's been fun. It's been real fun." I have a coworker who uses that catchphrase when she takes off.

I knew you were foolin', Sam, but I had no idea why. Your statement give us some insight and for that, I'm glad. My old roommate HATED the Stranger for similar reasons. However, I like the Stranger for their unsanitized attitude and points of view. But that's just me and however many readers.

Refreshing to hear you take the I Heart Dan mask off for your final moment. Best of luck to you.

elswinger
August 26th, 2005, 10:18 AM
Besides their news coverage, which I think is the best in the city, there has only been one thing that has annoyed me about the Stranger (particularly their reviews on anything, is that the writers seem to be compelled to discuss their sex life. I don't care if you suck dick or eat bush, I just want to know if a movie is worth seeing, a band is worth listening to, or if a restaurants food is worth eating. If you want to talk about your sex life, isn't that what Dan's column is for?

amykate
August 26th, 2005, 11:35 AM
Unfortunately, Dan doesn't let us use his column.

josh f.
August 26th, 2005, 01:44 PM
I don't like the "quote" option on this program so I'll just cut & paste it in here. Sam Chanderson writes: "Yes, the "I Heart Dan!" category, has been viewed more times by more people than any other subject on this Slog...Its popularity must be troubling to them..."

Sam, like everyone at the Stranger, I'm like really into irony...so, I can't let the unwitting irony of your observation go unnoticed. So, I hate to break it to you, but the reason the "I Heart Dan!" category is so popular is because, well: I guess Everyone hearts Dan. In other words, Dan is kinda fucking popular. (I know...there's nothing we can do about it either). People gravitate to stuff about Dan. You were taunting a local celeb, and well, people like to read stuff about celebs. So, I for one, found the fact that you were getting a lot of views heartening, cuz it just means our commander in chief still has cache...even if he is pushing, um, 36 or something. Anyway, hate to burst your bubble, but you were popular cuz, well...Dan is popular, and you were cashing in on that. Oh well.

Meanwhile, thanks to elswinger, live from Stoner way, who—forget about Savage Love—understands the real reason the Stranger is cool. Again, I quote: "their news coverage, which I think is the best in the city..."

segal
August 26th, 2005, 02:48 PM
Besides their news coverage, which I think is the best in the city, there has only been one thing that has annoyed me about the Stranger (particularly their reviews on anything, is that the writers seem to be compelled to discuss their sex life. I don't care if you suck dick or eat bush, I just want to know if a movie is worth seeing, a band is worth listening to, or if a restaurants food is worth eating. If you want to talk about your sex life, isn't that what Dan's column is for?
Extensive market research shows that <i>Stranger</i> readers <i>do</i> want to hear about the paper's writers' sex lives. You can't fight the will of a robust readership…

Sweet Jane
August 26th, 2005, 06:04 PM
There was some x-list celeb cache, but the "I Heart Dan" writings were also pretty fucking funny. As a loyal Stranger reader, thanks Sam.

On a side note I masterbated today and thought the same thing I do every time: Why don't I do this more often?

I Heart Sam

Rain Monkey
August 27th, 2005, 01:08 PM
On a side note I masterbated today and thought the same thing I do every time: Why don't I do this more often?

Thanks for sharing, Sweet Jane. I was starting to think I was the only one.

Sam Chanderson
August 29th, 2005, 02:18 PM
Dear Josh F. and Dan:

It was so splendid to hear that yet another fine publication has agreed to honor Dan with a big public opinion poll award. I'm always impressed by these.

But I do wish that Dan would stop cashing in on my name as he did in today's Slog.

Dan, Dan, Dan. Please. This all has to end. I know that my popularity in this section has got you all excited, and that you can scarcely let a conversation go by without mentioning the name "Sam Chanderson," but frankly, it's getting a little creepy.

I'm over you. It's hard to admit it, but it's true. I no longer Heart you. I've found other things to do with my time.

So please, Dan. We had good times. We had laughs. But it's over. Move on.

brentandrews
September 6th, 2005, 06:06 PM
I'm reading from Tennessee, so I don't know everyone and I don't get exactly why you, Sam, don't Heart Dan anymore, but let me just say that the forums aren't the same without your I Heart Dan campaign.

I fell for it - I thought you really did Heart Dan - I thought you were going to have a parade. I thought: If I could get to Seattle, I'd go. See, I Heart Dan, too. His newspaper says fuck as much as it wants. If a stuff-shirt says oh no you can't say that Dan says fuck you. Dan doesn't like D.A.R.E., or the drug war, and I don't either. Dan puts skateboarding stories in The Stranger. Skateboarding stories aren't just a given, in an alt-weekly. Dan made a new word for the dictionary: Santorum.

There are a lot of reasons to Heart Dan and maybe that's why I fell for the I Heart Dan joke. It seemed sweet. I thought: What a sweet guy, Sam must be, to wear his heart on his sleeve like that. I kind of loved you for a while after reading your posts. They generated a lot of hits and comments, and my I Love Drugs posts weren't doing as well, but I wasn't jealous. I was happy for you.

And now this. You said, "I've found other things to do with my time," and that's fine. But I used to look forward to seeing the I Heart Dan posts because they made me feel sweet. I thought, Here's a good person in a world of meanies, he has something nice to say. Too often people don't have anything nice to say - I've been there, believe me. Whatever it is you're doing with your time, I hope it's rewarding and I hope you're making someone somewhere feel warm inside. You really have potential.

Maybe one of these days, if you Heart Dan again, you can write about it some more, and plan a real parade, and even write for The Stranger. Maybe we'll write for The Stranger together, and Heart Dan together.

Best,

BRENT

Sam Chanderson
September 7th, 2005, 12:39 AM
Hello BrentAndrews:

That was just about the sweetest e-mail ever.

It certainly did a good job of cleaning a few of the last patches of cynicism off of me.

I wish I had your new eyes to read the Stranger again. Some of us who live in Seattle have had the paper around a little too long. The Stranger is expressly designed to piss off those who are above a certain age, say 35 to 40, and as we age, we change from the people who took glee in this (which we may have on occasion) to people who are, well, pissed off by the Stranger.

So I guess it's doing its job.

It's funny that the editor and publisher are 40 years old, and it'll be funnier as they get older. They have two choices: continue the Stranger in its present form, while making themselves increasingly pissed off, or they can remake it to what a 40-year-old thinks is cool.

Which, of course, anyone under 25 will think is crap.

But enough of such cynicism. I'm glad you Heart the Stranger and Dan too. You must get lonely out in Tennessee for the judicious use of "fuck" and great stories about skateboarding. The Stranger has, and will continue to have for a long time to come I would imagine, both of these elements in spades.

And trust me, there's nothing like a long distance relationship to create the perfect romance.

So I say keep Hearting Dan. Pick up the torch. I sort of Heart Dan right now because he's so goddamn angry about New Orleans, and so am I. And the next time he does something to piss me off, I'll think about the fact that your life is probably a bit better and more colorful because of Dan Savage and the Stranger.

All the best,

Sam

PS: If you're considering a move from Tennessee, my friend, I'd recommend Seattle. I think you'd love this town.